Hosting a tea

Well being the good sister in law that I am to Nate's youngest sister who is about to get married, I offered to host a bridal shower for her. I decided after receiving some advice from a friend that a bridal tea would be appropriate due to the fact that she was inviting around 70 women to it. I sent out some beautiful invitations (thanks Beth) that were designed for the bride and I've even given some serious thought to the menu. But tonight I realized the 'tea' is in 2 weeks and I needed to get busy planning what to serve. So I google tea parties...OH MY GOSH!!! I'm not a fan of googling. There is just too much information out there and it overloads my brain every time leaving me more confused then I was to start with. I just spent an hour reading different sites about the proper etiquette for hosting teas, which included what type china to serve your tea in, the proper foods to serve with certain teas, flower arrangements and table decor how to and even a blog post specifically talking about the language servers use these days to women "What can I get you guys?" instead of calling us ladies? (which hey I agree with that - I do like to be called a lady!) So now I'm baffled about which cucumber sandwich recipe I should make, don't know how many tea's I should offer, have no idea how I'll round up enough china cups for all those 'LADIES' and for goodness sakes where will I get my white linen napkins?